That’s What She Said

The 3 Speech Habits Holding Women Back

In 1975, linguist Robin Lakoff identified three common ways women’s speech patterns undermine their authority. Decades later, research confirms they’re still in play—impacting how women are perceived in workplaces, leadership, and even on game shows. Here’s the breakdown:

🔥 Sorry, Not Sorry – Women apologize 37% more than men, even when there’s nothing to be sorry for. While politeness has its place, over-apologizing can make statements seem less confident. Instead of “Sorry, can I add something?” try “I’d like to add...”

✂️ Cut the Hedges – Words like kind of, maybe, I think weaken statements, making women seem 20% less competent in professional settings. Instead of “I think this might work,” say, “This will work.” Clarity = confidence.

📈 Uptalk & Jeopardy! – “Keeping it down” isn’t about talking less—it’s about uptalk, where statements sound like questions? This can make speakers seem uncertain, even when they’re experts. A study of Jeopardy! found women used uptalk 50% more than men, even when giving correct answers.

The takeaway? Awareness is power. Ditch the hedges, drop the apologies, and own your voice—no question about it. 💥